Psychopaths and narcissists.

SIGNS OF A VERY DANGEROUS PSYCHOPATH

1. Complete lack of empathy  
They do not feel or respond to other people’s pain. Harm means nothing to them unless it affects their own interests.

2. Chronic manipulation  
They lie, twist facts, and control situations effortlessly. People are tools to be used, not humans to be respected.

3. No remorse or guilt  
Even when caught, they do not feel sorry. Any apology is fake and used only to regain control or avoid consequences.

4. Superficial charm  
They can appear confident, kind, and impressive at first. This is a mask designed to gain trust and access.

5. Enjoyment of control and power  
They feel a sense of satisfaction from dominating, controlling, or emotionally breaking others.

6. Impulsive and reckless behavior  
They take dangerous risks without concern for consequences, often putting others in harm’s way.

7. Aggression without warning  
They can switch from calm to hostile quickly. Their reactions are unpredictable and often extreme.

8. Pathological lying  
Lying is constant and effortless. Even small, unnecessary lies are told without hesitation.

9. Lack of long term responsibility  
They avoid accountability in work, relationships, and life. Blame is always shifted to others.

10. You feel consistently unsafe around them.  
Your intuition feels it. There is a constant sense of tension, fear, or unease.

One abuser targeted me after I was requested by session to ask him to apologise for an hour long, incensed, profanity-laden verbal abuse of an elder over the phone.  I soon after had to reprove him for touching up a Samoan lady.  
Twice I copped the same profanity-laden attacks.  Just hang up ?  I did.  He rang back and accused me of being angry in response.  He then publicly accused me of saying a person was a d.. head for abandoning his wife in her illness to go on an overseas trip with a mate ( An elder annually took business associates on holidays to Thailand without their wives, this time he took his brother-in-law elsewhere).  

The consequences:
I was suspended with a view to being sacked for using the term “d head” in his profanity laden abuse witnessed with his knowledge by my wife (I had told him he was on speaker phone and asked him not to use swear words in front of my wife). 
I then resigned because the elder concerned approved of having a convicted, (recently released from jail), predatory pedophile charged with nine counts of indecent assault involving five girls under the age of 15 back into a pulpit to conduct a church funeral service.  I discovered at this time that  the denomination had a policy that pedophilia was a “small thing”. 

A denomination and a local church that considers pedophilia a “small thing” !   

Association with such a church and denomination is actively sinful.  And dangerous. 

In spite of abuse I and my wife sustained, and at the same time, I could not associate with people who consider pedophilia a “small thing.”  



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