Normalising Abuse

8 WAY NARCISSISTS TRAIN YOU TO ACCEPT ABUSE 1. They slowly introduce disrespect Small insults, subtle put-downs, and boundary violations begin—just enough to confuse you, not alarm you. 2. They start with love bombing They overwhelm you with attention, affection, and promises—so you emotionally invest fast and deeply. 3. They normalize bad behavior What shocked you at first becomes “just how they are.” You start adjusting instead of resisting. 4. They gaslight you They make you question your memory, feelings, and reality—so you stop trusting your own judgment. 5. They punish your boundaries Anytime you speak up, they withdraw love, get angry, or blame you—training you to stay silent. 6. They reward your tolerance When you accept the abuse, they suddenly become kind again—creating a toxic cycle of hope. 7. They isolate you They distance you from friends and family so you rely only on them for validation. 8. They shift the blame onto you Over time, you start believing you are the problem—and that you deserve the treatment. The hard truth: It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s slow, calculated, and psychological. And one day, you look back and realize… you accepted things you once said you would never tolerate.

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